Procedure

I have been married under Christian marriage for 28 years. I had faced emotional, economic abuse or in other words, mental cruelty all these years when no one else were around. Thus, no one else is an eye-witness to the violence I underwent. I was controlled from connecting with anyone. I decided to continue in the marriage as my parents gave me off in marriage and never wanted to support me after that. Having given birth to children, I continued to live with my abusive spouse to raise the children. As the children entered their teen years, he began to blame shift that I was the reason for relationship problem with me. I came to know that when one of the children opened up the issue to me. As the toxicity increased with each passing year and as he began to abuse, control my two sons from coming up in their education and career, I want to take up a job and relocate to job location. With much struggle, I could support one of my sons to move to a university in another state and within a month, my elder son would move away. Both of my sons have gone through lot of violence, control from their dad but since he has the financial power, they side with him. I do not want to file for divorce nor legal separation. I want to know how I can leave the house and stay securely away from him and my in-laws. I had confidentially met a psychologist whose brief report is with me. I am also concerned that he might take revenge on my younger son by not sending money for tiution fees for the final year of his study.