Harrased by my wife for monthly pocket money. Mental torture

I am Teju (male,36) I got married in 2017. Love marriage. Her parents denied to do marriage. So I managed everything, finally got married. Spent around 5 lakhs(Loan) And also offered Gold mangalsutra chain and ring to her.Not took even a single rupee as dowry till now. I was doing private Job when married, with salary 35k around. Instead of joint family, Living a separate family nearby village. From 2017(35k Salary) to 2019(50k salary), I was repaying the loan and managed to arrange basic needs like TV, AC, washing machine, Refrigerator and all along with daily routine. We both used to hangout Occasionally. In 2019 in view of insecurity I shifted from from private job to low cadre govt job. I should be in probation for 2years with 15k salary. I managed the daily routine these 2 years with help of credit cards and micro loans. 2021 had a kid. Mid of 2022 job became permanant with 25k. Took loan of 8 lakhs. Repayed previous debts and Spent major amount of that to buy a land in view of future of child. Net 11k. 2023 , she too started earning 11K and urged me to shift to urban area. I asked her to share her money to meet the living cost. She claimed that it is her hard earned money, I dont have any right to ask that money. Also Claimed that she is earning that because I failed to support her with pocket money monthly.so now shifted to urban area, leading routine now in joint family, being supported by my parents. I tried to convince her saying that it is for child future.asked her Some time to stabilize. She abused me saying that buying a land is not for people like u who earning penny. Forcing me to sell the property I bought and demanding to spend on her.I refused. She started mentally torturing me and my family. She went to her home, not willing to come and emotionally blackmailing me that she is going to apply for divorce and claim alimony. When I went to bring my daughter, her mother abused me with unparlimentery words, compared me with transgender and asked me to Getout.