Transfer policy in banks for married female officer

I am working in a old generation private bank. I was posted in Kolkata for last 13 years and suddenly got transferred to Vizag in July 2021. I sent several requests/appeal to my HR to cancel the transfer order or at least postpone for another tenure as I have multiple health issues, two of my family members are recovering from cancer under treatment at Tata medical Center, Kolkata and my 11 years old daughter is suffering with Rheumatoid Arthritis. However, none of my appeal got considered. Instead, my HRD replied saying they are empathetic to my condition but not able to consider my request as a very special case. They have also initiated Disciplinary action against me for unauthorized absence. For reference, I joined Vizag and worked for two days and then returned back to Kolkata for the aforesaid reasons. I have applied for leave extension post October 2021 which was not sanctioned by my employer. My husband is working in a PSU and he will not get transfer as he is working in IT department. Now I am feeling helpless as I have started facing mental as well as financial issues. Is this justified?