We put section 9 n she responded section 12, DV 2005

Dear sir/Madam, we got married in 2016 Nov and my wife stayed with me for one month and left to her house in Jan as a part of ritual. my father expired on Jan 19. She came back. when all of my family was in sorrow, she was asking me to take out somewhere as we dint even go on a honeymoon. I was not supporting it since my family along with me were in deepest sorrow after we lost our dad. Then she left home several times n stayed in her mothers place in different city. if my mother used to ask her to do simple works. It happened 3 times and everytime their relatives dropped her off assuring she won't be repeating the mistake. she completely left in march 2017 n shifted to a PG in bangalore and started working in some company. my brother tried to talk to her for 2 months solving the matter. But she demanded a separate house to live with me, even we agreed for this but asked a little time till my father's first death anniversary. She was adamant and asked to shift the house immediately else she will drag the whole family to court. Then here uncle called me and abuseD and gave threats of killing me. Soon I approached nearby police station n filed my concern in oct 2017. They called them and instruteD not to repeat, also asked her to come to police st and give a reply. she wrote that we are harassing her and will file a case in court in the reply. Things weren't moving since then and finally we sent RCR section 9 on June 15th 2018. Now she has replied with 12 of DV 2005 Against me my brother, my mother and my sister (who doesn't even reside in my house). We have always lived with respect and my mother's health us effecting because she is seeing law for the first time in life. please help me to clarify below doubts 1. After we filing police complaint, they filed.After we filing section 9 they filed 2005 DV that shows who is at the fault. 2. Court has called al our family members on Aug 14. How to avoid this? as letting my family know about this case if difficult, since my mother's health is involved. 3. What should be our next step? 4. They have mentioned many times in phone, their intension is very clear to extract money from us since they are not very well to do. 5. After leaving house from more than a year, can someone file 2005dv? 6. can 498 be filed against me now after all this n after an year of separation? Now I seek a divorce since I am very clear on what they want from me and my family. your advise would really help me to take right steps. Regards sk.