Mental torture of son on me

The problem is with my son .He wont listen to us. Issues he made- he pressurized me and my wife to take responsibilty on marrying a girl .to come and tell their parents and girl to maary him.he doesnot do any job.He just asks money everytime if not given then he will do nusance at home and shouting scolding and all.we said we wont accept such marrages if you wish you do it by yourself and live on your own. He made big nusance and after few days the girl rejected him and said she wont marry him.He threatend her for rejecting.By not bearing him anymore they called heads in community and finally left alone.In this issue they called me and asked to control my son .i said to just leave. He did not listen to me he even scolded me. Me my wife and other two sons lives in city and he lives in our village.we use to pay approximately 15 thousand as he asks money and threatens to do nusance if not given Issue 2 -6 months after 1st issue he again Told "he loved a anothe girl and come and marry them ' we havent acceptd he metally toruring us everyday what to do: my age is 58 and son is 31