Wife away from 2 years no cases no contact how to proceed
Hi,
I am from Delhi, age 30 now ... No dv,, no fir ,, no 498a or any case on me yet.
and below is my case in detail.
Married in November 2013, started facing troubles after one month itself. Trouble was that wife was very kiddish in daily activities and behavior was not at all of that of a mature adult.
Daily problems started growing ,, like absolute lack of intelligence,, extra low IQ ,, soon I found out that she severely lacked basic daily life skills ,,even so low that tasks related to buying groceries ,, doing simple calculations etc was impossible for her. We went for a diagnosis in a hospital and was found that her IQ was low and her brain was that of a teenager while she was aged 26. In bed also she was extremely kiddish and did not understand what an intimate relationship between a husband and a wife is, our relationship was so cold and dead ,,there was no bond of any sort at all,, however she was very sweet and polite and we never had any sort of quarell at all. Absolutely zero fights between us,, but there was no relationship from day 1 ,, she did not have the mental capacity to get into the role of wife,,, for her the role of a wife is just making food and asking how I am ,, nothing beyond that,,,, . The hospital diagnose happened in April 2014. There are many incidents that disappointed me and made me take this step,,but I can't recall all of them right now.
After the diagnose things started to heat up. We daily requested her parents to take her back but they refused convincing me that she will get better by time and all.. It was very tough to spend a day with her,, how would I spend my entire life with her ? So in October 2014 (11 months after marriage) she had to go for around 10 days with her family to a holiday, so when she came back and asked me to come to take her back home ,,, I said that I have made up my mind and let's end this marriage.
Then she and her family agreed and immediately within 2 weeks or so asked to sit down for mutual settlement. They started with demands of 2 crore to give us a mental shock and told me that wife is pregnant,, later got her aborted without my consent. Because she is not mentally that mature ,,,and her parents also agree to that and I have recordings of her mom and her of agreeing to that ,, they don't let her talk to me ,, they just come on the phone themselves.
Since end of 2014 till march 2016,, numerous meetings were held for mutual settlement but nothing could be finalized. Meetings were both cold and hot,, calm and abusive, but only orally.. No physical abuse,, however once her lawyer and his entire team tried to intimidate me by becoming aggressive in his office ,,, that's why now I don't do any effort of calling them,, .. I personally feel that their lawyer is very sick and very anti peaceful-settlement. But till now no case has been done on me,, which makes me feel happy but also worried at the same time about what are they planning... , just one false complaint they did in police station on October last week 2014 (the first meeting when they came for settlement) ,, in that complaint she said that I demanded 15 lakhs and beat her. But police never came to me or called me in police station.
I have consulted few free and paid lawyers in the past who have given good tips but have not been able to find that ONE Lawyer who could make me enter this dark tunnel and guide me to the end ,,, all seem so scared in one way or the other for fighting from a guy side ,,, and some seemed fishy as of they were on her side. I am yet to have 100% confidence on one lawyer who could guide me with information,, I can't follow anyone blind folded.
Am sorry to all lawyers reading this as they might find my words foul but am just speaking out of experience, nothing else
Its going to be 2 years now, I want to get done with this by any way and am ready for an amicable settlement but would leave it to you experts to help me in the case... But am not tired ,,, nor have I lost my patience and nor do I feel weak in any way,, I have been cheated with and that is enough as a reason to stand up and fight,, but let's leave emotions aside for now. Looking forward for solution to my problem.
I have seen lawyers here replying very well to people's questions and thus I have started to grow slight confidence on this platform. I will be happy to see a reply which is well detailed and full of knowledge as the game is still because there are no cases on me. I have very large amounts of audio and video recordings proving my innocence on every case that she can put. I know the consequences of filing the divorce first and am not scared to face them given I have a good lawyer with me. Looking forward to build a solid legal relationship here regarding all matters of life ,, property,, business,, taxation,, govt related ,,, etc.. So kindly consider this as a relationship opportunity and not just a question.
Thank you
Asked 8 years ago in Family Law
Religion: Hindu