I need divorce but girl is not willing and playing foul
Hello, I am an IT employee from Hydbad and married unsuccessfully to a girl with for last 3 years in which we staying separated for past 1.6 yrs with no contacts (msg, call, mail or letter) and she is staying with her family.
We had many issues between us which lead to severe arguments, fights etc. She has problem with everything including our married life (physical) and my parents. She basically wants me to get separated from my family and join her parents and get treated well for her so called medical issues what I have. We went to doctor and doc certified me as a better person than average in front of her which she denys and became more demanding. We don't have kids. After going through a very rough phase of life for about 20 months we decided to stay separately.
From my family side we have informed them formally several times that I am no longer going to stay in this relationship ever whatsoever they do. This was informed to them by myself, guardians of my family and by some third person as well. They simply say they don't want to go for divorce, want to punish me as (it seems) I have spoiled her life and if me and my family say sorry to them then she will come back to my life.
We requested many ties her family to come and discuss how well we can plan this separation better and also asked for their demands however they remained unresponsive. As they say they want to continue in this relationship (anyway I cant accept it though) but their action are not matching with their words. She never contacted me for last 18 months neither her family, in her neighborhood she says she is already divorced, in my neighborhood she informed she is willing to give divorce but I am not doing so, very recently there was a death at my home, neither of their family members turned in, she and her family reached to many of our common family friends and family members and talked all nasty scrap about me and my parents, lied a lot. We asked about compensation on divorce ground but they simply says she wants to continue with this. There are rumors she is trying to get hold of guys for her 2nd innings may be but off course they are not agree in this.
Please suggest me what I should do now? How to proceed with this matter legally? Is there any chance I can get my divorce?
There is a plan I may go abroad next year for long term, so how should I get rid off this trouble, what should be my action plan.
Please help!
Note: - I have contacted couple of lawyers but none of them could give much hope and saying go with a div case and eventually you may get divorce - which dint sound like a concrete plan to me.
Asked 8 years ago in Family Law
Religion: Hindu
Hello,
Thanks for your kind suggestions. Based on your input I have few concerns on those if you could please share some more clarity
1) If I go for contested div case - what kind of evidence I need to show? She went to many of our family /friends and talked nasty things - whether their witness can help?
2) IF I put the Div case - whether my presence in every court hearing is mandatory or my lawyer/my family can represent me if I stay at different state or country?
3) Can I run such Div case while staying at abroad- whether then also my presence at Indian court will be must?
4) If I go abroad, should I inform her/her family and leave or I can go without informing them? Can they put FIR saying I am absconded.
5) We have not taken a penny as dowry - its not their in our society. In this case how much roughly we may need to pay her as compensation if Div happens (contested/mutual) - given that she stays in a smaller town with her parents, we don't have kids, she works in a private establishment, her dad is retired and mom house maker.
Asked 8 years ago
Hello All,
Thanks for these inputs shared - I really appreciate it.
I have few more doubts in this regard as listed below : -
1) Do I need to give my property share to her - even if the property is on my dad's name and I have nothing on my name.
2) As I work in a private company - if I resign there so I will have no income that time how can I give 1/3 of my salary to that girl.
3) Can I start initiating the course or file a Div case while I am abroad?
4) If she tries to come in between and try to stay with my parents then how can we prevent it?
5) Along with Div case can we put any other case against them regarding spoiling our family image in the society with baseless allegations and ask for compensation?
6) Can I start a new life with some one with a live in relationship or marrying in temple but without doing registry - in that case my Ex-Wife she can do anything against me or my Wife (whom I am going to marry)?
Asked 8 years ago
Hello,
If the girl and her family goes to a lawyer and put a case by keeping us in dark then
1) What are the anticipatory bails we should apply to be in safer side?
2) What are the chances they may send us in jail by putting such cases?
3) What are the usual outcome of such case?
4) Are there any chances court can force me to stay with that girl again?
Asked 8 years ago