Hello Sir, Im from middle class family. Im 28 years, because of settlement in life i delayed in getting married. In last week of Jan'14 my brother in law brought a marrige proposal, She was his close friends daughter. I said Okay as she projected herself very spiritual. Everyone in our families were pretty happy & okay to proceed further. Her father is an contractor was having some financial problems & at the same time it was Lent seasons so it got delayed till June work so we couldnt move further.
During these time we were talking & messaging on phone to know eachother as i stay in bangalore & she staying in hyderabad,Even couple of times met outside. She sounded very immatured & i was thinking that everythng will be okay after marriage. We even had fight couple of times as she was just going out without telling,not opting the office given cabs,kind of words she uses (my family think that im happy,i cant tell my family to call off this proposal....etc ) I have set proper expectation that if she is not ready to say me but she always used to say whatever/however i have to marry someone right, so let it go. I felt bad about this informed at home about this, and made my sister to ask there parents. She dint even say that time also instead she said nothng like. Im fine with this proposal. She continue using these sort of words which made me to feel again that she waz jst forced to married, When i asked she dint address properly. I thought its because of immaturity .There are almost 20-25 situations couldnt mention here which made me feel that she is not ready but everytime she was telling " i want to come bangalore " Just a note, we dint ask any dowry as i strongly feel its against the christianity.
Finally in Mid june we got enageged. After a week i took her credentials to upload pics in Facebook. This is when i got to know in details about her past affairs(2-3). I was shocked to see that i immediately called her to check, she dint ans anything simultaneously she loged into the facebook & deleted the chat (Conversation). Luckily i copied some content & sent her to explain, only then she told that it was nothng much to do now. But i clearly saw that conversation was started in 2012 & continued till 2014. One thing which i felt bad was she told her boyfriend that sh will continue even after marrige...And i also saw a message telling her friend "that she forcefully accepted this marrige ". After knowng all these, i clearly told her that we need to discuss all this infront of our families to proceed further, she hesitated to do that and said that she will die. I got scared and called her mom,Sister to check her condition. At the same time told my sisters, brother in law. My brother in law called her father to meet. They dint turn up for the meet. After knowing all these i dont think i will be happy with this girl.. So told my parents to calloff the marriage..
After 1-2 days i tried to check her mail id and was able to crack the password. When brother in laws called couple of times, we havnt received any sort of response. Got call sayng that he will file a criminal case for accessing the mail. Now my question is- How can i proceed & what are the consquences i may have to face.Pls suggest.
Asked 10 years ago in Family Law
Religion: Christian
We dint take an gifts as such in the enagegment .How can i completly get out of all this...
Coming to email id,she gave her passwords of her email ids so accessed with her knowledge..
Asked 10 years ago