Take them to a certified counselor and a psychiatrist to enable them to attain normal human behaviour. By doing so, they do not engage in any manipulative behaviour and stop threatening you.
Emotionally blackmailing mother
Hi, I live in an apartment far from home on rent with my mother (50+) and grandmother (80+). My mother is a single parent and I'm her only son. She seem to have paranoid personality disorder (this is not diagnosed, this is what my therapists told me as a possibility). She hates all my friends saying that they're trying to attract me towards them and make me hate my family. She wants me to cut off ties with all these people. She creates ruckus every other day at home after they relocated with me. I want to send them back to our native place. I don't want to live with them because they're too restrictive and this is taking an emotional toll on me. They don't agree to the same and threaten me saying that they'll commit suicide or run away. I'm emotionally distressed with their behavior and I'm unable to confront it. They also are not willing to seek therapy. They also threaten to file complaint against me to the police saying that I don't take care of them. What can I do to handle the manipulative behaviour and suicide threats ?
Asked 2 years ago in Family Law
Religion: Hindu
9 Answers
You should keep your mother and grand mother in separate flat pay their maintenance and keep an attendant to take care of them
2) in event police complaint is filed tags the plea that it is not possible to stay with them as mother suffering from mental illness and that you are paying them maintenance
Thank you for your answers. 1. They are not willing for any treatment 2. They are not willing to stay separate and refuses the idea of keeping any attendants. They keep threatening that they'll suicide stating me and my friends are responsible for their death if I send them back to my own house (which I'm still paying EMI for) in my hometown. 3. They're forcing things on me. They want me to sell my house in hometown and purchase an apartment in bangalore all against my will. Is there any way I can get them treatment without their consent ? What legal consequences will be there if they actually take a harsh step ?
Asked 2 years ago
No need to bow down to pressure tactics
2) file poluce complaint against their threats to commit suicide
3) record their threats
3) dont purchase apartment in Bangalore
1. Obtain a Doctor's, preferably from NIMHANS, a recommendation letter regarding their mental status, which would come to your rescue in case of any Police Complaint against you by them.
2. Based on the above letter, you can shift them to a treatment centre, which looks after them 24/7.
3. If they take any any harsh step, the letter certifying their medical condition, comes to your rescue.
There is no force or compulsion on you to remain together with them especially in the given situation which makes it impossible to bear with your mother's mental tortures every day.
You better shift your residence to some other place while making arrangements for taking care of them properly.
Your mother's suicidal threats will continue as long as you are living together with her in the same place, once you are out of the house she will become normal because it is just a psychological impact on her which will vanish if there is no one to qua rel with her.
The police will not entertain her claim for maintenance, besides you have not neglected their maintenance hence you need not be worried on that count too.
You cannot force them to undergo treatment.
You cannot live with them in the given situation hence you better look for an accommodation outside very secretly and move out without informing them.
If you want to force treatment on them then you can inform the mental asylum or any mental hospital about their condition and request them to take to the hospital forcibly, but that will sometimes aggravate their mental condition beyond cure.
For suicidal threats you can inform police with a complaint giving details about their mental state and about their suicidal threats too.
You can file police complaint for all the above blackmailing and threatening and also approach court if needed
- You should give information Application/Complaint to the police , after narrating that you are facing hardship as your mother is having suicidal tendencies and disturbing you , and hence you should not be held responsible in case such a thing happens.
- Further, you can take help of any NGO for counselling her , if she is not agree with you.
Dear Sir/Madam,
The solution to your problem is less legal and more based on psychological and emotional handling. First of all, you are suggested to be be mentally tough and bold to handle this situation. Definitely, is alarming and taking a toll to your mental peace and the complete life. But, you need to be wise and clever to handle this situation. It is quire probable that with the passage of time and age, mental balace of some of the aged persons go out of order and you are facing the same. The only solution may be therapy, psychological and related medical treatment to them even they don't give consent for the same. Secondly, you are suggested to install CCTV cameras in the house to record their behaviour and this may be helpfiul and saving to you in case of any wrong step taken by them.
