Hello Sir, I would like to inquire about the case, where i am married since 3 years now, it would be three in November badically. 1. I have found my wife telling lies to me and not sharing details with me. 2. She believes more on her few friends in local who are in contact since 1.5 years only and that too most of them are cheating her of utilizing her for making meals from my wife while she used to go office. 3. Her family from panipat and elder sister from bangalore keeps asking her to send miney to them, hence she sends amd never ever informs me of this transactions from her account of her hard earned money. And on it, her parents call us and says thay she is taking load of work here and all. Where as i help in all activities of household work equally and even more than her. I bring all household items at home. 4. She arranges her friends to comment on me like, you should take care of her and all. Well, i do take care at my best. But my wife makes such arrangement of taunts and comments from her friend circle. 5. She gets call from her old friend at 10pm also and he ask her to meet after office and all. He continuosly texts her on whatsapp to meet meet and meet. And she does meet and never informs me, just says, i have some work, would be late. So why such lies and all with me? 6. She does not talks proper with my elder sister, and talks so rudly. 7. Her elder sister basicslly guides her with tricks and all to trick us and harass us. As same ways her elder sister has done to her husband too. My wife's middle sister, i.e. 2 years elder sister is already facing divorce case since 3 years just because of her wife's nature and her tantrums. So i am finding her too.of same nature amd feelimg threat that she may cheat with me and family at any point in life. Hence i would like to safe guard me. As these days i am seeing so many cases where girls and their family are chesting with boys family. 8. We have got married without any dowry, not a single penny we took nor we expect either, as we are strictly against the dowry system, infact we gave dowry while marrying my sister. Her family members, father mother snd brother and sisters have no affection of being their sister and dsughter, as they never ever did any riwaz for her daughter post wedding, simply got her married and forgot her, just want money from her for their work. This is really not fair ways. Well, i do not expect even a single penny nor any gift from her family, but they should not believe without beeing seen the home and facility here, well her parents never visited her post marriage.is this the affection. Amd they are living in a n abandoned home in some government quarters in thermal plant and they all.have lived there only since childhood. And now when they came to city post wedding they are not able to digest the luxury, comfort, life and all. Kindly help me to safeguard. Many thanks
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Sit with your wife and sort out the differences. Probably she has an affair with this man and the baggage is not disconnected by her yet.
So unless and until your wife changes its very difficult to work out this marriage.
The problem is not so serious and your personal touch may remove all the misunderstanding
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You need to contest any false case if filed by her or her family members. You can also file cases against her if she has committed any offences of criminal nature against you
Obtain in writing from wife that there have been no demands made for dowry before or at time of or after marriage
2) visit a family counsellor to resolve your differences
3) if no solution is possible file for divorce on grounds of mental cruelty
4) rely upon messages exchanged with wife , audio recordings to prove your case
This is a trivial issue for which there's no legal solution.
If the prevailing circumstances are intolerable and you want to get a permanent relief from this problem then you may plan to quit the married life.
You may consult a local advocate and proceed with filing a contested divorce case on the grounds of mental cruelty.
- As per Supreme Court judgement, wife is expected to move in with the relatives of their husbands, follow the rules and customs of their home, and ideally, blend in seamlessly as a new daughter.
- Further, the court granted divorce to a man on the grounds of “cruelty” after his wife refused to share a home with her in-laws.
- Further, If wife is not supporting her husband for the enjoyment of life and denying relation, then the husband can get divorce after filing a divorce petition before the court on this ground.
- You should try to settle the dispute amicably with the help of relatives.
- Further , if she is not interested to live with you , then take her consent for mutual divorce .
- If she refuses for the same ,then you can file divorce on the ground of cruelty and other grounds.
MORALLY: Three years of matrimonial bonding is too early for any one of the spouse to judge other. Patience is first thing required after love and adjustments that you make in matrimonial relationship. Sir, its always better to mend than to break. Give another chance to your relationship. Try to talk and discuss your issues with your wife. she is spending her own hard earned money on her own family, legally and morally you do not have any right to cease her from doing that. she is your wife and that doesn't cease her from being daughter of her family. Hence, give second chance and try to discuss this same issue in polite and compassionate manner with your wife.
LEGALLY: from the facts that you have narrated, there is no cause of action yet arose to claim divorce under sec. 13(1)(ia) of the Hindu Marriage Act. Hence, you can't place application for divorce. Its 3 years of matrimonial bonding only. She is residing in your house and is living with you as your wife. So if problems penetrate more than you have narrated here, then speak to her for mutual consent divorce and apply u/s 13B of the Hindu Marriage Act.
It is advisable not to have kids until you both mend situations and conditions of your relationship. if you both have kids then try to mend and give second chance to your relationship for their future.
It may be time for Marriage Counseling,Marriage counseling can help you rebuild your relationship. Or decide that you'll both be better off if you split up. Either way, marriage counseling can help you understand your relationship better and make well-thought-out decisions.
Many thanks everyone for your valuable guidance and suggestions. 1. Definitely, it would be good for us to sit together and resolve. She should be able to improve her tone and pitch and way of answering and nature. I would definitely observe her all sited issues by me amd would talk on with her parents once on every point and make them aware of her nature and misuse of what she is enjoying. 2. I would never beat, argue, nor force her for her life's free dome and decision but she shall adhere to our culture and amend her way of style and lifestyle. 3. I am at good state because we have not take a single penny of dowry nor any gifts nor i expect anything like that, as i am against this system. 4. Her parents shall also understand and guide her to follow family culture and not to miuse the leasure amd freedom what we have given to her. Her father, mother, brother Avi and sister Rashmi (who is already facing divorce case because of hers and family's nature and her elder sister's puja's cheating nature and now sitting at home and putting everyone's life disturbed) so i really do not want this to happen to my wife now and then it would become difficult for her and i and ofcourse bth families. We are even ready to help her in fulfilling all her wishes and all and do gift her with what she feels good and indeed that adds as a valuable part to keep life easy and also helping her to study further for her doctors. I am worried just because, there are so many cases of false blames and claims and then life becomes hell. Once against many thanks to you all for guidance. Regards AS
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You have taken a good decision after making a proper introspection of everything.
However you can talk to her and reconcile even the minor differences between you both and better start a new life afresh burying all your differences with her.
All the best.
Best of luck
In fear of tomorrow one should not stake their faith and fate in today... all the best. Don't worry. It takes time but its worth to invest time in mending things than fearing of hell tomorrow.