• Mentally Torture

My mother in law forced me an abortion tablet. Stopped me sharing this outside.
This will be shameless else. 
Then forced me in next month that do a child now. Without getting me recovered from my weakness of body.
As they are Sharma’s & as per kundli - I had my first : -as girl child. Now I have given birth to a baby boy, to which she intentionally taken in her hand while working with baby in her hands infront of fridge & infront of AC in first 30 days only, when an infant required only mother’s womb heat. Being a lady, she is trying to risk my baby’s breathe.
Added to this in first 7 days they fought me on my saying that there is hair in baby’s mouth - as a dog ( bitch ) kept in house. Her hair is so thin. On that, they rather taunt me that you are over-possessively taking ur baby, he is not special, or different from other babies.
Added to this She said - she had also worked in pain.
On listening to her talks - father in law started & said those girls also do, who dnt have any helping hand - at their own .
I replied to him that they call their mom in need. 
On this brother in law started - that will not send u to maternal home. 
All started torturing me mentally by saying some or the other words. 
This forced me to try for sucide attempt being already into delivery phase n stich pains due to c-section operation & Sleepless days.
I controlled by taking name of God , cried a lot - which affects my stitches healing .. still not healed properly.
Also told in talks that first she want house to be build, then plan a family, as I am also the earning source.
She is mentally torturing me from past 3 years of my marriage. I keep on ignoring just thinking things in positive - it’s ok , it might have to be happen like so.
But she is now making things worst , tried a fight between me & my husband by saying that after child - I got changed. 
She is creating superstitious ways to make me away from my husband that I will take the child away from him, the baby will not recognise his dad & many more.
Husband is believing her sayings - on listening to her, he at times argue with me, which I understands in influence of his mother’s words.
These all things are making me in depression as I am unable to sleep. As my stiches are not healed properly.
I got shivered on listening even when my husband call me to come back home.
Also mother in law warned me many times not to talk to your mother, as they don’t want her interference. Whereas on doing so much - they are just quiet as no body wants a fight or matter to be so much extended.
Also stops me talking to anyone in neighbourhood.
Trying mental depression & torture on me.

I need a suggestion, how could I get out of this, as she creates drama out of any scenario.
As she said till her time, will not allow my husband to go out of house , or on rent , or a kitchen on another floor. 
As she is trying to observe my solution & then change infront of my husband - saying see I told you she is changed.
Asked 4 years ago in Family Law
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17 Answers

It seems that they don't want to have you in that house. Try to be strong and record everything that goes on in that house. If things become unbearable then go back to your parents and take away the child.

File a divorce petition and a domestic violence case against him and your inlaws.

Rahul Mishra
Advocate, Lucknow
14103 Answers
65 Consultations

Facing all such trauma will increase depression and lower self esteem. You are suggested leave them and stay at you parents house because it is not baby also. Lest baby develop some ailment than permanent disability will attach to him.

Until your husband will not understand  and develop the capacity to evaluate the actual cause, situation will not solve and will become worse. 

As much you will tolerate,more you will suffer, no Hope's for such people to change. 

For your and child good, stay with parents sometime or more.

You can not be stopped to take your kid. Call on 100 for immediate support if any resistance.

Yogendra Singh Rajawat
Advocate, Jaipur
22971 Answers
31 Consultations

You need to make up your mind what exactly you want. Without legal help there is no remedy. You need to file complaint against her under domestic violence Act and IPC for forceful abortion. If you do that it my create rift between your in-laws and you. 

Prashant Nayak
Advocate, Mumbai
32366 Answers
199 Consultations

Please file FIR online to Delhi Police officers the way you have posted here with the same details and facts.

The Delhi Police would take cognizance of the case and would register the FIR against your Mother-in law,Father-in law ,Brother- in law and husband for cruelty and Domestic violence

Ramesh Pandey
Advocate, Mumbai
2541 Answers
8 Consultations

File a case under section 498a ipc alongwith other relevant section for mental cruelty, forced abortion, before taking such steps ensure that you can safely stay with your child in other house. Consult your local criminal lawyer before you file the complaint.

If you want to discuss in detail you can contact me via kaanoon.

Regards

Swarupananda Neogi
Advocate, Kolkata
2973 Answers
6 Consultations

Dear Query seeker,

the contents of your query revealed your issue with your mother-in-law but you didn't mentioned about your husband, and your intentions regarding continuance of your marital life, 

Any way,

if you want to remain in the matrimonial relationship, then, try to settle the matter amicably with your husband involving elders/relatives/friends etc and also try to convince him to stay separately and start afresh

 

you can also file/claim

498a complaint (for causing mental, emotional, physical and monetary abuse, etc)

Domestic Violence case (for causing mental, emotional, physical and monetary abuse, etc)

you have rights to claim residence, protection, compensation, maintenance, 

but any litigation may deteriorate your marital relationship with your husband,

 

Suneel Moudgil
Advocate, Panipat
2382 Answers
6 Consultations

1) you should walk out of your matrimonial home wit your child 

 

 

2) file for divorce on grounds of mental cruelty 

 

3) Seek interim maintenance and alimony from husband 

 

4) seek sole custody of your child 

 

5) also fi,e DV case against husband d , mother in law seek alternative accommodation, maintenance and compensation for mental torture undergone by you 

Ajay Sethi
Advocate, Mumbai
96717 Answers
7797 Consultations

If you are facing domestic violence and torture then the option is that you have to call 1090 for help and file your FIR you can find your FIR under section 498 a of Indian penal code to get some relief but this is your life and you have to decide based on your experiences in the family because every action will push towords disturbance in the family.

You have to decide your course of action variation wisely so that increase your begin to continue this relationship should not be disturbed it seems that you are not working ready and you need support of the family for your own maintenance.

Vimlesh Prasad Mishra
Advocate, Lucknow
6852 Answers
23 Consultations

Your only hope lies on your husband. 

To show her true colour you can show him the recorded voice or video of her tortures. 

Don't go overboard with your husband nor vent your anger against him.

If you can win away from her mother patiently and with love and affection then only your problem would be resolved. 

Legal recourse if taken would ruin your marriage for good. 

So don't take that unless you are prepared to sacrifice your marriage to teach your MIL the rigour of law. 

Devajyoti Barman
Advocate, Kolkata
23181 Answers
510 Consultations

Dear madam, 

Please approach counselling centre and explain your facts they take your complaint and will issue notice to them by calling to attend the centre for meeting in which they advise to your husband and also to your in laws in which your problem may be resolved so please try to approach your jurisdiction area counselling centre as early as possible before approaching the court  as well child custody till the age of 5 years will he under mother after which it depends or husband may get visiting rights so please approach counselling centre!!

Ayesha Sultana
Advocate, Bangalore
280 Answers
1 Consultation

It's a plight that after being educated and working u r undergoing such painful stage which u should not have. 

In our Indian Orthodox families mostly in-laws r like this but u should know how much to listen to them & how much not. 

If ur mother in law is such a cruel woman then u should not listen to her at all and not even hand over your baby to her. 

1. The first thing is that u r the natural guardian according to Indian laws if your child upto d age of five. Therefore u have all rights to take decision for his betterment and well being so ask your mother in law and other family members including ur husband not to interfere. 

2. Second if they do not care for u stop caring for them. Withdraw from d household jobs till d time u don't get well both physically and mentally. Nobody can force u for doing jobs during your illness and devote more time with ur child.

3. It seems ur husband is also not much in your favour else he would have taken care of you and would have stopped his mother from harrassing u. 

4. Be strong enough mentally as u r d mother of ur child and he needs lot of care and support. 

5. If doing all this they start torturing u go and file a complain in d Mahila police station against them and get them a warning that if they continue to do so u will charge them with cruelty and domestic violence. Also ask the police people to warn your family members that if they do anything to u or your child they will b put to custody. This u can demand under protection order of domestic violence. Also tell them about forced abortion, and charge them with female foeticide ie killing girl child in d womb. 

6. Don't get scared at all. Do it in a systematic manner either by taking support of your family or friend. Try to speak in front of all your relatives known people about their I'll doings so that everyone comes to know their reality. If u keep quiet they will keep on torturing u. 

7. It's sad that u kept quiet for such a long time. Undergoing torture is also a crime because u could have raised ur voice d first day itself. But now it's high time fight back, keep yourself strong. 

8. If things persist to be worse even after taking such actions then u can file a case based on your police report of mahila thana against ur in-laws brother in law husband etc udner sec 498ipc, domestic violence

Sital Patil
Advocate, Kota
139 Answers

Your written submissions are showing that you are subjected to cruelty from your husband and his family members. 

- Hence, you should know, that legally you are having following right  :-

1. As per law, A wife has the right to claim decent living standards and basic comforts of life from her husband. Hence for claiming the maintenance, you can file a petition under section 125 CrPc.

- Your husband is under legal obligation to provide the same to you at any cost, even he is working or not. 

2. Law entitles wives a basic right to reside in the matrimonial/ home, whether the house owned by her husband or his parents, a rented property or officially provided to him. 

- Hence, for claiming your residential right, medical expenses etc, and also for teaching a lesson to the family members of your husband, who subjected you torture & harassment, you can file a petition under the provisions of Domestic Violence Act.

3. As per the Supreme Court, A wife has complete ownership rights over all her Streedhan, the gifts and money given to her before and after marriage. The denial of Streedhan to the wife makes the husband and in-laws liable for criminal charges. 

- And further, if the husband or his family members subjected a woman to cruelty for the dowry demand, then they can be booked under Section 498-A.

- You can lodge a written complaint against your husband, in the Women cell/Mahila Police, after mentioning all the details of torture & harassment. 

- The women cell firstly will try to reconcile the dispute; otherwise, they will lodge an FIR against all the person, who subjected you cruelty. .

- Hence, in spite of tolerating , you should file the above mentioned cases against them  , then they will pray you to forgive,

 

- You can connect me via kaanoon.com for further advise in Delhi , if needed. 

Mohammed Shahzad
Advocate, Delhi
14406 Answers
221 Consultations

1. You shall have to decide as to what do you want now to get out of the clutches of your in-laws.

 

2. You can shift to your parental home or take a house on rent  yourself calling your mother to stay with you there since you are employed.

 

3. Whatever you do, first negotiate with your husband and try to settle the dispute first.

Krishna Kishore Ganguly
Advocate, Kolkata
27421 Answers
726 Consultations

You can prevent them by doing what they wants. If the torture does not stop then you can file a FIR against your husband and his family members for mental torture. You can also file complain a domestic violence complain before the Magistrate against your husband and mother in law. 

Mohammed Mujeeb
Advocate, Hyderabad
19306 Answers
32 Consultations

First of all.....

You are going through post Partum depression. Get the counseling done. These situations are faced by many ladies. Also you need to trust your inlaws that they never want to hurt your child after all he is their grandson. Go out. Have picnics, try talking to your inlaws like you talk to your parents.

I AM MENTIONING SOCIAL THINGS HERE AS THERE IS NO LEGAL INSTRUMENT AVAILABLE TO MAKE YOU UNDERSTAND THAT DADA N DADI WILL NEVER HARM THEIR GRANDCHILDREN. 

TRUST THEM

GOD BLESS U

Rahul Jatain
Advocate, Rohtak
5365 Answers
4 Consultations

This is another trivial domestic violence case happening  at almost every door steps.

You have lot of ways to overcome such issues by approaching the legal forums or police or even CAW cell.

If you keep hesitating just to protect the family reputation or any societal issues, you will left stranded to suffer till the end.

You do not have to listen or obey to the unjustified dictates and orders of your monstrous MIL or the injustices meted out by her to you in the name family sentiments or any other dirty labels.

You have liberty to go out of your matrimonial home and give a complaint with the women cell.

In that complaint you can mention all the event of cruelty and the incidences of domestic violence that were unleashed against you from the beginning of your married life, chronologically.

You can even mention the circumstances under which you were forced out of your married house  including the act of abetment of suicide by her.

You can request for protection for you and your kid, to provide you a rented accommodation outside their home in view of the security for youir lives, and also to initiate proper legal action for the crimes they have done against you so far.

You may take the help of your parents to support your complaint containing the sorrow state of affairs as mentioned therein.

 

T Kalaiselvan
Advocate, Vellore
86915 Answers
2331 Consultations

  1. As per the information mentioned in the present query, makes it very difficult to believe that people like them are still there in the society making life of the daughter in law as hell.
  2. I really appreciate the strength that you are showing mam, and I will try to my level best to help you out legally in this.
  3. I would like to apprise you that what all have been happening is surely the cruelty on you, but would advice you to not to even think of separation from your husband as he may not have same conducts for you as per the above information mentioned above.
  4. But, yes, you have the legal option open to teach them a lesson (in laws) as per the criminal law for the protection of women like you mam.

Sanjay Baniwal
Advocate, South Delhi
5474 Answers
13 Consultations

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