Dear Sir,
Your questions are answered as follows:
1.Can she ask me to come to her place or refuse to come to my place?
Ans: No, it cannot be. Her proposal cannot be accepted by Courts.
2.Can she file false dowry and domestic violence case.?
What punishment will be given to her for false cases ?
Ans: She can file but on its failure no punishment can be given to her saying she lodged false cases, since it is family matter.
3.How long shd I wait for getting divorce if contested ?
Ans: About 2-3 years depending upon the tactics of other side.
4.How frequent can I get visitation rights of child and also during trial ?
Ans: Once a 15 days depending upon age and sex of the child.
5.Does my and parents govt job affected by it also pension settlement as my dad will retire in1 year if she files false cases?
Ans: If she includes your parents in the FIR, there will be some problems in pension settlement.
6.Does separation count from the day she left or the day I stopped visiting her ?
Ans: The day she left you that is deserted you.
7.Is it not the duty of wife to come to husband home as supreme court has granted divorce to husband ,in which wife refused to stay with in laws?
Ans: Yes, you are correct.