• Old live-in relationship issue

Hello Sir,

I am in a big trouble due to my old Live-in relationship with a lady named Pratima Khawas who actually was a prostitute with name Soniya for past 1-2 years before meeting me (her family doesn't know about her profession).

This lady is separated (left her husband) with one son Kunal (with her mother in hometown Siliguri) and then later had an affair with another person in Mujaffarpur. That person also left this lady and since after that she got involved in prostitution.

When I met her, I wanted her to come out of this worst profession. So I continued to meet her, later with the time, we developed a soft corner for each other and decided to live together without marriage. I was living in a live-in relationship for around 2-3 years with mutual understandings (not forcefully at all).
I was owning all the expenses including her rent and livelihood.
Later there started clashes due to the shortage of money. I got to know that she use to send all the money to her family which I give her for daily expenses and buy household things. Also, she use to take many things (food, clothes, toys, medicines, etc) without paying money and later I have to bear those expenses. When she use to go her hometown, she demands me money for her family and if i was not in position to give, she takes it from others and later I have pay that amount.

I tried many times to end up the relationship but she newer allowed me to do that. She tried to attack herself manytimes but when this didn't worked. She started threatening me about me and my family. I somehow continued in pressure.

I started pulling myself from her but she notices this and then started a phase of arguments, fights, etc. Note that I never said or promised her that this relationship will turn into a marriage (she also knows this very well).

Due to family pressure I got engaged, she also got to know this. Later after marriage (4 months now), i changed my room, my mobile number and never tried to contact her.

She somehow managed to find me personally and now threatening me to kill or beat me that i will be on bed for always. Also, threatening to hurt my wife and family members. For this she is taking help of her friends, Ajay & pinky (guard), Pooja, Reena, Riya, etc.

She also threatening to file a case on me for assaulting her and blaming me as that its me who pulled her into the prostitution.

Sir, I am not as that bad person and want to live with my family happily and safely.

Kindly advice me as how to proceed on this matter.

Kind Regards.
Asked 6 years ago in Criminal Law
Religion: Hindu

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20 Answers

Hi, first try and settle things with her amicably.. However , it seems that she will not understand it as she was getting monetary benefits from you .. It is advisable not to get in touch with her and if she comes and create a scene , you can make complaint to the police for threatning.. You can contact me in person for drafting of complaint and further legal assistance

Hemant Chaudhary
Advocate, Gurgaon
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67 Consultations

File a complaint against her under ipc 506 for criminal inteminidation and threatening also provide police facts about old relationship.

Being in relationship doesnot mean she will harass you in future also seek restraining order from.court if you fear physical.harm.from her.

Shubham Jhajharia
Advocate, Ahmedabad
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179 Consultations

You need to understand that you are in great problem and need to do something as soon as possible.

I advice you to make a representation to the DCP and SHO first.

And we can get the FIR registered on them as soon as possible. So, that if in case if she files any case on you then you would be protected as her complain would have less credibility in comparison to yours.

Then also we can move to High Court and file a writ of mandamus against police to provide protection you if needed.

You can contact me as I practice in writ matters before Hon’ble High Court Of Delhi.

Live in relation doesn’t mean that latter on she would file some case on you as per Latest Supreme Court Guidelines.

Sanjay Baniwal
Advocate, South Delhi
5474 Answers
13 Consultations

if u hv any evidence about threatening u should complaint before police for extortion nd threaten to life

Tarun Budhiraja
Advocate, Rohtak
379 Answers

Yes, we can do that also.

You just don’t worry, but at least your family might be coming to know all these.

And also even if you don’t do then still she would one day reveal everthing and put you behind bars for false cases.

But, yes at least for some time we can hold of the things. Once you get some relief reveal it to your family.

Sanjay Baniwal
Advocate, South Delhi
5474 Answers
13 Consultations

simple move an application before police that today i was coming from my work to my hone all of sudden two persons came to me nd threaten me that give them money or u ll hv to face dire consequences. i donot know their names however one of them was women ageD about same age gave which of that women nd further explain physical description of them. Police officials will keep ur complaint nd record it in daily dairy register.in future u ll save if they ll threaten u then u only hv to say that they are d same person

Tarun Budhiraja
Advocate, Rohtak
379 Answers

The complaint with SHO/Sp shall be private and nothing shall be published or in public record. You need to take steps because she can use you or implicate further if you donot take any steps

Shubham Jhajharia
Advocate, Ahmedabad
25514 Answers
179 Consultations

You can file a Complaint against her with all the evidence you have. You can charge her for black mailing you and harrassment. Don't worry and don't succumb to her pressure else whole life you will do that.

Prashant Nayak
Advocate, Mumbai
32479 Answers
200 Consultations

1) As per new things in the society that live in-relationship, this is treated as marriage and if this case gies in the court than you will have to pay for it.

2) Its better to arrange a private arbitration of family law and pay herbone time settlement amount and get from her in writing that she will no trouble or enter in your life otherwise she may have to pay double amount what you will be going to settle.

Ganesh Kadam
Advocate, Pune
12987 Answers
262 Consultations

Dear Querist

She may file a rape case against you before police, it may be possible that you win that case but you have to face court trial for more then years, without filing the complaint against her before police or court, you have only one option, which is settlement with her.

If there is no possibility of amicable settlement than file a complaint against her and ready to fight a legal battle in which she may file cases against you and she will try all possible way to became your life as hell.

Feel Free to Call

Nadeem Qureshi
Advocate, New Delhi
6307 Answers
302 Consultations

record her threats

2) file police complaint against her for criminal itnitmdation

3) refuse to pay her any money

4) let her file police complaint

5) it was consensual sex with no promise of marriage

6) no case of rape is made is made out .

7) apply for and obtain AB if false case of rape is filed

Ajay Sethi
Advocate, Mumbai
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7820 Consultations

file police complaint against the lady for extortion under section 384 of IPC

Ajay Sethi
Advocate, Mumbai
96921 Answers
7820 Consultations

Hi, at this perticular situation it is advisable to stay low and not to approach any authority as it may back fire upon you ... The girl will be called by the police, and they may instigate her to initiate legal action against you...Do you have any record of her threats ?

Hemant Chaudhary
Advocate, Gurgaon
4630 Answers
67 Consultations

Dear Sir,

Your step towards wrong direction thus you are in troubles now. Just forget about the past and start new life with your new life at a for away place. She cannot lodge any complaint since herself having a worst history and she may not dare to lodge a complaint against you by approaching police. Please see that your new address should not reach her. In the usual course and causally inform and pray pardon with your new wife so that there should not be any misunderstanding between you two people. As time went on, things will improve, nothing to bother.

Kishan Dutt Kalaskar
Advocate, Bangalore
6179 Answers
490 Consultations

The concerned authority in this matter will be your nearest police station, you will have to tell this thing to your wife (not in entirety) so that she is aware about the things going on in your life

Anilesh Tewari
Advocate, New Delhi
18090 Answers
377 Consultations

Give one NC to the nearest police station that threats of false cases are being made on you and that you are being blackmailed as and when she does it again you approach the police

Regt

Anilesh Tewari
Advocate, New Delhi
18090 Answers
377 Consultations

Try to ignore her initially and do not respond to any of her communications.

At anytime the harassment fro her becomes unbearable and she continues with her act of threatening you with dire consequences, approach the Police and move a complaint and narrate the entire episode to them.

Vibhanshu Srivastava
Advocate, Lucknow
9659 Answers
307 Consultations

She has no legal footing to blackmail you like this.

Vibhanshu Srivastava
Advocate, Lucknow
9659 Answers
307 Consultations

Under the situation it will be better you lodge a criminal complaint against her for the offences of threats, blackmail. Extortion and intimidation.

If you are taking a bold legal step against her now you can sigh a relief afterwards.

Better consult a lawyer and take the help of a local police.

T Kalaiselvan
Advocate, Vellore
87120 Answers
2338 Consultations

By lodging a criminal complaint it is not necessary that you will be exposed to public.

You can request police to keep this as confidential, they will cooperate.

Without legal action you cannot solve the issue permanently.

T Kalaiselvan
Advocate, Vellore
87120 Answers
2338 Consultations

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