I got married in 2014, it was arrange marriage. Presently me and my husband are living in USA while my in-laws are living in India. My husband works in a Private MNC in USA under H1B VISA. Ever since we got married there are lot of tensions going on because of my parent's immature behavior. They always misunderstand my in-laws and my husband.
It all started from the time of marriage- At the day of marriage there was some misunderstanding between both the family which lead to a heated argument but somehow situation was controlled by our relatives and we got married, afterwards from my in- laws side things became normal, but me and my parents thought that my mother-in law is not a good lady and we used to think that she always influence her son and because of that we both used to argue.
But when I started living with my in-laws, I found that they are not bad at all. My in-laws used to understand me, took care of me and given me lot of love. Gradually I started realizing that I misunderstood them because of my parent's influence. Later i apologize with my in-laws for my wrong thinking.
I understood my in-laws and my husband but in my parents remained on the same page, many a times i tried to explain them that whatever they are thinking about my my-laws is not right. Its been a year explaining them in all my ways but its of no use because they don't understand anything, they have made their opinion about my in-laws and my husband and they don't want to change.
They always interfere in my married life which me and my husband does not like it. For example they asked my husband to buy a mobile for their daughter which should be me and my husband's decision, how much my husband is spending on me etc.
This is not only the end, my parents went to my in-laws relatives and spread lot of rumors like they are unable to talk with their daughter, my husband is threatening me for divorce and many more things, but still we both tried hard to explain them that this is not good to insult my married life among relative. I keep on saying again and again that everything is fine, I am happy in my married life but they never listen. Whenever i feel like explaining them anything is like a hitting your head into the wall. I lost my patience and composure because it has ruined my one year of married life.
Now the scenario is that me and my parents usually have heated conversation and it ends up abusing each other. During an argument my parents always say that "You both now be prepared to come to India", "Will file a mental harassment case". etc.
Now me and my husband are worried what if my parents file any case against my in-laws or my husband.
Please suggest me:
What are the steps I can take in advance to protect me, my husband's carrier and my-in-laws from any coming trouble because of my parents insane behavior?
What worse steps my parents can take to hurt me and my in-laws as well as my husband's carrier?.
Asked 10 years ago in Civil Law