• My parents are forcing me to resign my job and marry a man of their choice

I am a 25 year old woman from South India working in a very good company in Ahmedabad. My parents are forcing me to resign my job and marry a man of their choice. I neither want to resign my job nor marry the guy who they want me to marry. They are taking necessary steps to consult my higher authorities to at least transfer me to some another branch in South India against my consent.They are sometimes threatening me that they may go to any extent to make me marry a man without my consent. I don't want to register a police complain against them, is there any other way to deal with this?
Asked 6 years ago in Family Law
Religion: Hindu

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16 Answers

You cannot be forced to marry against your wishes

2) you need not resign your job

3) inform your higher authorities that you don’t want transfer

4) you can complain to national commission of women if forced to marry against your wishes

Ajay Sethi
Advocate, Mumbai
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No parents Guardian or any person of the world can force you to marry any person of his choice you are adult and free to live your life you may marry any person of your wish any authority cannot compile you to resign your job on the basis of your parents request to resign you can be fired from your job only in case you have some disciplinary action.

Think as an adult and decide for your future but respect your parents in case they are thinking for you good future

Vimlesh Prasad Mishra
Advocate, Lucknow
6852 Answers
23 Consultations

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You need to make your parents understand the practicality of life and it may result in a failed marriage and convince them. The forced marriage can result in a disaster. Sorry i have to quote a scene from a movie that came instantly on seeing your query...see or show them the particular scene of 3 idiots where madhavan tries to convince his father that engineering is not his cup of tea and photography it is.

Its a good decision that you dont want to take action against your parents rather talk and convince

Aveek Bose
Advocate, Kolkata
1222 Answers
9 Consultations

4.7 on 5.0

Hello,

If you do not want to initiate court process or police complaint then the only way to settle the thing is that you talk to your parents or if they are not listening to you make some elderly member of the family talk to them so that he/ she may make them understand.

Be that as it may, legally they can not force you to do anything since you are a major and that you are free to tale your decisions.

Regards

Anilesh Tewari
Advocate, New Delhi
18088 Answers
377 Consultations

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In these circumstances you may file a FIR against your parents for criminal intimidation under Section 506 IPC. Alternatively, a suit for permanent injunction may also be filed by you against them to restrain them from communicating with you or your employer in any direct or indirect manner.

Ashish Davessar
Advocate, Jaipur
30763 Answers
972 Consultations

5.0 on 5.0

First of all as you are major nobody can force you, and if parents are in talk to your company for transfer , have a word with the authority and tell them not to transfer you in any kind of pressure and aaaure them.

As they are your parents you should not file complaint against them as it will make mattrr worse, as they arr your family, please talk to them politely and tell them what are your priorities in life, if they dont understand try not to go to your native llace and things like this like ignoring them, but i would not suggest legal action against parents.

But do takw your company aithorities in confidence

Varnika Singh
Advocate, New Delhi
327 Answers
2 Consultations

4.9 on 5.0

Simple, start making distances from them.

Sanjay Baniwal
Advocate, South Delhi
5474 Answers
13 Consultations

5.0 on 5.0

Respected mam...

There are Laws in India that protect you from forced marriage.

Civil laws applicable to all communities—relevant in the context of forced marriage—include the Prohibition of Child Marriage Act, 2006 (PCMA); the Guardians and Wards Act, 1890 (G&WA); the Majority Act, 1875; the Family Courts Act, 1984 (FCA); and the Family Courts Rules as laid down in various states, as well as the recent Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005 (PWDVA).

One can use the PWDVA to prevent child marriages/forced marriages of daughters, as the Act understands forced marriage as a form of domestic violence (Section 3(a) PWDVA)....You have option left and you can take plea of article 21 of indian constitution...You can also file a complaint if you think fit ...

Thanku

Dinesh Sharawat
Advocate, Delhi
1265 Answers
12 Consultations

4.9 on 5.0

Simply you marry whomsoever like you

P V Reddy
Advocate, Hyderabad
422 Answers
3 Consultations

4.2 on 5.0

A forced marriage is a violation of human rights, as well as a form of Gender Based Violence as it usually involves mental abuse, emotional blackmail and coercion from either the family or society.

In your case, you are a major and you know very well that force can not be applied or no one has authority to force you for any act against your will or consent.

The problem , you dont want to register a police complaint against your family, so, better

-you should approach to Women Cell of your jurisdiction , they will counseling in your favour politely with your parents.

-You can lodge a complaint at the National Commission for Women > Online complaints > Register Complaint > Online Complaint Registration and they will approach your parent .

Mohammed Shahzad
Advocate, Delhi
14145 Answers
211 Consultations

5.0 on 5.0

1. You are an independent Citizen of India like your parents and is an adult person.

2. You shall have to decide whether you shall accept their proposal/insistence for marriage or straight way tell them not to meddle with your personal matter.

3. Legally, there is no scope for your higher authorities to transfer you to south India based on the request of your parents against your wish or if there is no requirement of your transfer for official reason.

4. Explain your Management tactfully about the age old thoughts of your parents for getting their daughter married as per their choice and politely request them to ignore the request made by your parents seeking your transfer.

5. You might have to lodge police complaint if you find that physical force is being applied on you for getting you married against your wish.

Krishna Kishore Ganguly
Advocate, Kolkata
27345 Answers
726 Consultations

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Hi

you are an adult and you legally have all the authorities to take decisions about your life.

Parents should not force children to marry someone whom children don`t want to marry, but now that they are forcing to marry you without your consent you can file a formal police complaint acting upon which police can make them understand.

Also you can take help of the higher authorities of your department and explain them about the threats you are facing.

Thank You

Rahul Jatain
Advocate, Rohtak
5365 Answers
4 Consultations

4.8 on 5.0

Hi

First of all, we would like to congratulate you on your strong will & determination !!!

Coming to your issue on hand, you be an "ASCERTAINED" Person i.e., be clear about your needs / ambitions etc.

Have a dialogue with your HR and also your Reporting boss about your priorities and the issues being projected by your parents. They will certainly come to your support.

Have a mediation / conciliation kind of discussion with your parents through family well-wishers and/or your HR or Reporting Boss (subject to their willingness) about your priorities, more particularly about your proposed marriage.

To put an end to the issue you may have an audience with the person with whom your parents are arranging your marriage, so that you will have total clarity (if you feel so).

Last but not the lease, you may refuse to all the activities of your parents, if the same is/or hampering your goal etc.

May God Bless You !!!

S Srinivasa Prasad
Advocate, Hyderabad
2876 Answers
9 Consultations

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1. Your parents are struggling for your welfare and you are behind money and prestiage.

2. If you do not like the boy proposed by your parents then you are liberty to marry any other boy of your like because you have crossed marriageable age.

3. Either accept the proposal of parents or solve the problem which is domestic by using your wisdom otherwise your education will be of no use.

Kishan Dutt Kalaskar
Advocate, Bangalore
6148 Answers
489 Consultations

4.8 on 5.0

You are an adult and employed person.

Your organisation is not bounded by your parents dictates.

You can very well refuse the offer made by your parents, do not be affected by emotional pressures or sentimental attacks.

Since you are economically independent, you can take your own decision to not budge to the pressures of your parents on such issues, and you can even refuse to move out of this place.

Your employer cannot forcibly transfer you from this place to any other place on the basis of request made by your parents.

Your employer has to adhere to the employment rules and conditions or else you can sue thee employer seeking justice

At the same time, since you are not in the idea of lodging any police complaint, you may issue a legal notice through your lawyer instructing your parents to refrain from indulging in such activities which embarasses you and also to not put any pressure on you to accept their illegal demands which are against your wishes.

T Kalaiselvan
Advocate, Vellore
86402 Answers
2296 Consultations

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If ur parents are adamant, File police complain.

it`s not equivalent to criminal offense, but only a preventive measure against parents. Police will prohibit or executive magistrate by order not to interfere in ur family in any manner nor to ur work.

Yogendra Singh Rajawat
Advocate, Jaipur
22905 Answers
31 Consultations

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