1.You did not first mistake of getting seaprate from your aprents.
2.this is psychological disorder which can not be ebbed away even if you stay away from your parents.
3.Your have tow options-
to stay like this for rests of your life
or
get separate from your wife.live life of your own and if she does not reform file contested suit for divorce
4. No peace is meaningful sacrificing one's own self-esteem and meaningful existence on earth.
Good luck.