How to overcome this? I do not want my relatives to grab my money, I would like the investments to go to friends I will specify in each instrument.
If there is no provision 9in law for this then no new law can be created for your purpose alone.
You may write a will favoring the friends stating that you dont have faith in any relatives hence you are bequeathing all your movable and immovable assets to so and so , a close friend get the Will registered.
What safeguards are possible if any?
You can transfer the same by a gift deed if will is not conducive
How to specify friend as nominee?
You know the laws that nominee is just a trustee on behalf of the legal heirs and cannot avail the amount by themselves if they are not one among the legal heirs.
Then why do you insist on nominee, when there is no provision to appoint a friend as a nominee and this nomination will not bar the legal heirs from having an access over your assets/estates.
I could specify in the nominations, a male friend as brother and female friend as sister, to bypass the limitation in the rules. Would they have to produce evidence of the same if they were to collect the nominated money someday?
It will become tough for them to prove the relationship in the event of any dispute in this regard before court of law.
Take wise decisions properly at proper time.