Wife went away with my child
Hi,
I am 35 years old. I have been married since 6 years.
At present my wife is literally bullying me .
She has taken my child away with her . She went to her native in the pretext of Diwali vacation. She had planned from 21 Oct to 02 Nov .
She came with her family - her father , her brother , her sister in laws , her mama, on 23 Oct , for 3 hours,and deliberately had a huge fight in this very house. Her brothers bullied us in this house.
In between she coyly with her fathers help took a flat on rent 3 km close by. On 01 Nov 2014 she was in Pune and her father and her brother helped her to find a flat and accomodate her.
From 02 Nov 2014 to 08 Nov 2014, she did not respond to any messages and then disclosed only when she got settled.
Her parents are staying with her . Her demand is as follows
(1) I should not take my daughter to my house during weekedays and that my daughter should not stay overnight in this house.
I am missing the time with my daughter as I am not getting the chance to take her studies and impart fatherly duties such as getting her ready for her school . I am traumatized to understand by the separation from my daughter.
I have asked a 50 - 50 time , and she flatly refuses and cities that she will file a police complaint.
In event of this what will i have to do ? Should i get myself bullied into my wifes dictation ?
Since we are still married , I can very well take my child with me as long as I like . Can I or can't I.
(2) She maintains that she does not want to return to this home as she cites cruelty from my mother. The matter of fact is that my mother is a diabetic and my wife inspite of being a doctor has not a cent bit taken care of my mother. It is I who has to take care of mother along with my father.
Also she intends to keep my child away from my mother and my father,
(3) I am so full of anguish against her and her joint family that i have lost any feelings for her. She claims to the world that she wants only us to live together as a family separately. But matter of fact is that she is guided by her brothers and father.
(4) between there is a property registered in my name and her name. I am the one paying all the emi's so far from my bank account. She pays me as and when she has money and her contribution to my account is just 10 % of the total cost so far.
I am cornered as law accords lots of power to women. At the same time there is so much that I am losing out. Mainly I am losing out of my health due to not being able to raise my daughter .
I have not intention to stay with my wife as I am always reminded of her brothers bully.
In this case even i approach the police it shall be treated as a family dispute and will not be entertained. But I want to have a stay on her brothers as they will whisk away my child away from me.
At present she is going to purchase a car worth Rs 5 lakhs and she shall be paying for the loan of the car roughly Rs 12000 all by herself. Her car is partially sponsored by her father. And she vehemently denies that she is getting any support from her brothers or her Father in trying to pull me out of existing house and away from my parents.
Please advise what I should do ?
should I give in and stay with her just for the sake of my daughter ?
I intend to get divorced as I hate my wife now ,but that is a long and costly procedure and my wife does not want to part with the property in which she is joint owner.
My case seems hopeless what am I to do ?
Asked 10 years ago in Family Law
Religion: Buddhist